Life, and the people I meet are my teachers
I can learn something from everybody I meet. At school I have had bad teachers and suffered in boring and sometimes painful lessons. In life, I was worried, afraid of people and ashamed, not only of making mistakes.
I found help, unlearned certain believes about myself and replaced them with new thoughts and ways of acting and behaving. I learned to take care of myself and ask for help if and when I needed it.
I found help, unlearned certain believes about myself and replaced them with new thoughts and ways of acting and behaving. I learned to take care of myself and ask for help if and when I needed it.
I had enough of being miserable all the time
Over the years I found teachers who taught me gratitude, courage and acceptance. They helped me to change my attitude and slowly my whole life changed. Nowadays I am not worried about things that I have no control over, I still am scared when I face new challenges, but I find courage to do it anyway. I am not afraid of making mistakes and when I do, the feeling of shame subsides quickly.
My life changed when I changed my perspective
When we meet, I might tell you more about my own experiences with family, education on detours, making mistakes and learning from them, learning to appreciate myself and others, enjoying life, drawing boundaries and finding my motto for life.
I am ready to pass on what I have been given.
That's what it is all about, isn't it?
Growing up with alcoholism. How does it affect learning and educational processes over a lifetime?
Drinking alcohol is not a problem. Regular alcohol abuse can become a problem, not only for the drinker, but for their partners, friends, colleagues and their children. This talk is based on my Master's thesis in which I looked at the effects of growing up with alcoholism from an educational perspective:
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Be true to yourself. Love what you do. Do what you love. Today.
WORKSHOP
Many people bear abuse, harassment, and violence mutely. The perpetrators count on the victims' shame and their silence.
#MeToo has put the cat on the table, accusations of unacceptable behaviour are taken more seriously. Sometimes, perpetrators even get sentenced. Everyone has a role in the play of abuse. Victim. Perpetrator. Witnesses. We all have learned our parts over a lifetime. We have learn them from our families, friends and the society we live in. I came out of the Victim roleYes, l was a victim more than once and I got bored by that role. I have a choice today.
Expecting sexual abuse to end on the abusers' initiative is like expecting cows to fly. Those who abuse do so for as long as they can. They have no reason to stop their unacceptable behaviour. That's why those who tend to end up as victims have to start the process of change. |
Do you think it's enough to sentence an offender? Will they change?
Do you want to wait that long??
If we want to change and grow, we need to acknowledge that life is not black or white, good or bad, victim or abuser, Often things are more complex. Shaming, blaming and accusing the other side won't ever change anything, but continue old patterns. Until we realise and accept that we all have a bit of everything in us and start changing ourselves, nothing will change. Any problem is also a chance for a new beginning and a new direction. #MeToo has been an important first step but it's time to go further! Unless we teach girls, boys, women and men how not to be victims and abusers, it will never stop.
Let's meet, share and learn from each other
1. # MeToo- don't let anyone get away with it
2. Create a safe environment to share our experience with others who have been there too.
3. Look at our own part in it. Accept it. Move on & Change
4. Refuse to stay stuck in the past and the roles we were given.
5. Be open and learn new ways of walking through life.
6. Share what we have learned with others.
2. Create a safe environment to share our experience with others who have been there too.
3. Look at our own part in it. Accept it. Move on & Change
4. Refuse to stay stuck in the past and the roles we were given.
5. Be open and learn new ways of walking through life.
6. Share what we have learned with others.
What can we learn?
We can learn about ourselves. We can learn to listen to and learn from each other. We can learn new ways of relating to each other. We can learn to say NO and YES and MEAN it.
Be true to yourself. Love what you do. Do what you love. Today.