My aim is to create a safe space, in which I listen to you and share with you my own knowledge and experiences.
I am a problem solver. This doesn't mean, that I am going to solve your problems for you.
It means, that I have ideas on how to approach a situation differently. My aim is to help you find your own solutions.
If my ideas or capacities aren't enough, I'll find out, where you could get help.
As human beings we are a synthesis of physiological, mental, cognitive, social and spiritual factors. They are all equally important for our well-being.
Well-being can be defined broadly as "the state of feeling comfortable, healthy or happy". (Oxford)
While "healthy" can be measured objectively to a certain extend, feeling healthy, comfortable and happy are very subjective. They are not dependent on the outside world, even though we like to blame everything and everybody else for our frustrations.
If a pair of shoes helps you to feel better, great!
I don't buy shoes. I am more of a bag-person. But at some point I realised that on top of feeling miserable, my closet was cracking at the seams with all these bags I never used. I slowly came to understand the meaning of "Contentment is an inside job" and that my bags weren't going to help me.
Having said this, I would like to add "feeling safe" to the definition above.
If you are living with any form of abuse (emotional, mental, physical, sexual, spiritual) or with active drug or alcohol addiction, the question of shoes or bags is probably not significant.
Living with abuse of any form, is harmful to personal well-being. It doesn't matter, whether you are the abuser or the abused.
Now comes the part I didn't like to hear, when I felt miserable:
YOUR contentment and your Well-being is YOUR job. It's your life. You can do with it, what you want. If you are not "happy" or if there's anything that makes your life difficult and you would like to change it, do it! Or don't. It's your life.
If you are anything like me and many others I have met, you probably didn't like reading this. Maybe you've heard it all before and think that it's too late now anyway. Change is scary. Doing it alone, is even scarier.
I have been there and I can assure you that You are not alone. Believe it or not. There are many people out there, who have gone through similar experiences.
"The earlier, the better" is not necessarily true. I needed to go through some rough times before I was willing and able to change and it took the time it took.
I don't regret any of the experiences I have had and I don't think I wasted my time. I firmly believe that it's never too late for change and it's never too late to learn and to broaden my view on life.
Thank you and have a good day.
Be true to yourself. Love what you do. Do what you love. Today.